Should You Use the Feedback Sandwich?
By Cristina Stensvaag, Co-Founder of LeaderReps.
The feedback sandwich is the classic advice: open with a compliment, slip in the criticism, close with another compliment. It feels safe and kind. In practice, it usually does the opposite of what you want.
The short answer
Usually no. Burying the message between two compliments often makes it disappear, and people learn to brace for the criticism in the middle. It is kinder to be clear and direct while still leading with genuine care.
Why the sandwich backfires
Three things tend to go wrong. First, the real message gets lost. People latch onto the praise and walk away thinking the conversation went great, missing the part that mattered. Second, it trains people to distrust your compliments, because they learn a criticism is coming, so every kind word starts to feel like a setup. Third, it can feel manipulative, since the praise is clearly there to cushion rather than to recognize.
What to do instead
Be direct and caring at the same time. You do not need to hide the message to be kind. In fact, vague feedback is the unkind version, because it leaves people guessing. Clear feedback is kind feedback. Say the true thing plainly, with real care behind it, and give a clear next step.
That does not mean skipping recognition. Genuine praise is valuable on its own, given honestly and separately, not as bread around a hard message. Keep them distinct so both land.
When directness feels hard
If you are avoiding the direct version because it feels uncomfortable, that discomfort is worth facing. The feedback conversation you have been avoiding does not get easier by wrapping it in compliments. It gets easier by saying it clearly and kindly, once.
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For the full framework, see how to give constructive feedback to employees.
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